In this video interview, India talks about her own situation going through divorce, and how much she could have benefited from having a divorce coach herself. India was a stay-at-home-mom and tells her clients that she made all of the mistakes, so they don’t have to.
Here’s a bit of India’s story in her own words …
“I first went to a mediator with my soon-to-be ex back in 2011. And I didn’t know what I didn’t know, right? I get in there and I’m thinking, ‘Oh, I’m gonna be railroaded. I can’t even speak, because I’m so emotionally raw.’ And I had no idea that I could have a consulting attorney and I could have an advocate. So my decisions were made based on little information, right? If I had had a divorce coach or someone educating me, I would have definitely taken that route. Because the alternative was litigation. And we fought a lot. I mean, you can imagine we spent so much money, and it was unnecessary.”
India goes on to say, “And so when I coached my clients, of course, I share that story. But what I love about mediation is the intention behind it. You’re both coming to the table with really a mission statement to do what’s best for the children – to get through this with the least amount of collateral damage. That is possible, right? And if you set an intention, which I do in my clients, before mediation, you’ve just tended to follow through. I see people that go through mediation come out so much happier.”
Mediation tends to be a shorter process. Whereas litigation, going back to India’s story started in 2011. It was the fastest divorce possible, but then there were other things that came along up through 2017. India and her ex were in and out of court that long. India says, “If I had to do it over again, I would definitely go to mediation.”
In divorce we tend to focus on the other person and what they are doing or not doing. But in coaching, we turn the attention back onto the client, because your actions as clients are the only thing you can change and the only actions you can control.
If you change your thoughts, you can change your feelings. If you change your thoughts, you can change your life.
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