Taking the High Road: Supporting Clients Leaning Toward a More Holistic and Amicable Divorce Solution

Many people are told by “experts” that if the other person doesn’t go along with the idea of an amicable divorce, it is impossible to do it by yourself. We have collected real-life examples of proof that isn’t so.

Amicable Divorce is not a destination nor an outcome.  It is a mindset and a series of choices every day to take the high road, to stay true to who you are at your best, even during difficult times, to pay attention to your children and their needs, to model how to deal with disappointments and loss,  and to stand strong in advocating for what is important in the long run for the whole family.

The training for this certification is appropriately called  “Taking the High Road: Supporting Clients Leaning Toward a More Holistic and Amicable Divorce Solution”

With or without agreement from their spouse, one spouse can commit to focusing on what is most important, setting their intention for how they will manage this challenging situation to maintain their dignity throughout the process.

MINDSET – RESPONSE – PROCESS

Mindset is a big part of it, holistic skills in being able to calm the nervous system, to develop a thicker skin for conflict, for dealing with negative reactions from your spouse, tools and frameworks to support your client in choosing their response in each moment, for discerning between helpful people and  bad advice, and for choosing the best legal  process for divorce given the dynamics between your client and their partner.

There are many twists and turns on the high road, and frequent detours may require being well equipped with resources and provisions for the trip, navigating around the obstacles they will encounter both from above and below.  We know that a holistic approach to  Amicable Divorce isn’t necessarily an “easy” divorce, and it takes a commitment to yourself and your family and extended community to be the best you can be throughout the process regardless of what the other person does.

For that reason, we train coaches on how to create an environment where their client can:

• consistently focus on what is most important in the long run,
• keep their children safe and supported in loving both parents,
• effectively advocate for themselves and their children,
• deal calmly and strategically with the resistance and conflict they may encounter during the divorce, and
• build a team where the professionals support cooperation instead of adversarial positions, reinforcing the guardrails on the high road,

so that an occasional detour is just that – a mandate to get back on the high road where the air is cleaner, the road is less crowded, and peace of mind may be just around the next curve in the road.

In eight, 2-hour sessions held on a weekly basis, we will explore:

• a series of different scenarios that your clients may encounter, from one end of the conflict spectrum to the other
• exploring the mindset and the lessons learned in each situation
• the tools or frameworks that support the ultimate desired outcome and
• the legal process that supports the client in doing the best they can do.
• You will also get resources and referrals for selecting a team and
• A strategy for making your Holistic and Amicable Divorce Certification more visible.

So, in looking back at the experience, your client is proud of how they handled themselves. They feel much stronger and more resilient, and they have peace of mind that they did the best they could for themselves, their family, and their extended community. In the not-too-distant future, they could be looking forward to celebrating important milestones for their children with both parents participating, if not this year, then maybe next year.