Your Divorce Client Wants To Do What?!?

How To Use Coaching To Help Your Client Shift Focus From The Story of Divorce And Take Control Of Their Own Decision-Making

Clients want what they want, and they often want it so fiercely that trying to move them away from their position is like trying to pry a barnacle off a rock. The more you wrestle with their opinion, the tighter they cling to it! That means convincing, cajoling, and coercing them won’t work. So, what does? What can get them to open up and consider different ideas, options, and approaches to their divorce dilemmas? Coaching.

When someone is starting or going through the divorce process, they are often overwhelmed by the emotional stress involved with their relationship ending. There’s a very good chance they will get stuck on telling the “story” of their divorce because their entire focus is on what led to this point, how and why it happened, and who is to blame.

A Divorce Coach should be able to interrupt the story while still honoring and validating the person telling it. A CDC Certified Divorce Coach^® will listen without judgment, without saying whatever they think their client wants to hear. Their only goal is to support through understanding, and in turn, helping their client understand, what they need and want from the divorce proceedings, and most importantly why they need/want it.

A Divorce Coach helps their client find alternative options that may be a better fit for what they actually need versus their initial, emotional, knee-jerk reaction. A divorce coach will help avoid the pitfalls of the divorce process, and help their client make the best possible decisions for their future and for the future of their children.

For the past 10 years, the CDC Certified Divorce Coach^® program has been supporting committed individuals to develop confidence and know-how in divorce coaching. What they have found is that divorce coaching is an innovative approach, a dispute resolution process, which supports individuals and families in ways that move them away from the high conflict behavior towards the more amicable approach to divorce.

Divorce Coaching is not a stand-alone dispute resolution process – it pairs well with and adds value to the other recognized divorce processes: litigation, mediation, and collaborative divorce. As a Divorce Coach, you can help your client move their thinking away from the destructive “winner takes all” approach to an approach that restores dignity and confidence in working with the process.