Is There Emotional Justice in Divorce?
Divorce has a well-deserved reputation for causing clients to enter a crazy time – when logic, rational thought and common sense are sacrificed at the altar of staying in the “story” – the bitterness and resentment of what happened in the past. This divorce story weaves its emotional threads through every interaction between attorney and client.
No amount of logic, rationality, cajoling or coercion can move a client from the “story” to the “business” end of the divorce spectrum, particularly when the client feels overwhelmed by both the reality of divorce and the frustrating process of it.
Here are some of the issues these clients might be dealing with:
- They are locked into one option and refuse to consider other possible solutions.
- They refuse to examine any other perspective but their own.
- They are either overly optimistic or overly pessimistic about how things will turn out for them after divorce and such beliefs determine their approach to a settlement.
- They seek relief from their highly emotional state and are willing to pay any price for that relief – by either throwing in the towel or extracting several pounds of flesh from their spouse.
- They lose sight of what is best for the children, using them as pawns in the game instead of being a parent most concerned about their children’s welfare.
Coaching helps the client self-discover the impact of how they filter the information used in decision making and helps them explore other options or shift their perspective to consider other possible solutions. The American Bar Association defines divorce coaching as “a flexible, goal-oriented process designed to support, motivate, and guide people going through divorce to help them make the best possible decisions for their future, based on their particular interests, needs, and concerns.
Join us for this mini-training to deepen your understanding of what divorce coaching is and how the practical application of coaching techniques impacts the client’s experience of the roller-coaster of emotion, many areas of change, and a legal process, all at the same time!