Some divorces may have attorneys, mediators, therapists, financial advisors, and a judge. Others may only have one attorney, or it could be a collaborative divorce. There may be children involved, or no children and no mutual property. Regardless of the circumstances, most divorces follow the same general flow or journey – pre divorce, divorce proceedings, and post divorce.
So then, is there a secret recipe for a successful divorce?
Well, first you have to define what “successful” looks like to you. It’s different for each of us, and it’s not always about money, in fact, it rarely is. There is one ingredient you can add to the mix as a divorcing client – a thinking partner, someone completely focused on helping you navigate the emotional firewalls of your brain and laser focus in on what you want, and don’t want, not only during the divorce but for your new chapter of life that starts after the dust has cleared. The secret ingredient? A CDC® Certified Divorce Coach!
To get through the legal and financial divorce parts, a divorce coach helps their client to accept the reality of divorce and get clear about what is important to them as they focus forward so that they can be a better client and a better decision-maker. This empowers them to take control of what they want, to be able to move forward and build a case for what they need to transition to their next chapter.
By becoming the decision-maker, they can work more effectively with the other professionals involved, have more reasonable expectations, and get command of their facts so they can participate more effectively in the give and take of the decisions. When they are able to show up organized, asking good questions and able to express their needs, and explore multiple options, the client gains confidence and courage, not only for the divorce process but also for everything that follows, from effectuating the settlement to reinventing themselves and the roles they play in their family. With a divorce coach as a thinking partner, the client can be a better client for the advisors they rely on for legal and financial decisions and lay the foundation for a better outcome in the future.
If you’re not currently a divorce coach but you’re interested in finding out what exactly it entails, there’s no better time than now. Becoming a divorce coach is one of the most fulfilling and satisfying career paths you can embark on.
As a CDC® Certified Divorce Coach, you will gain the tools, knowledge, and practical applications to help your client successfully move from the story of divorce to the business of divorce. With your help, they will be better prepared to communicate their wants and needs during the proceedings and into the future. CDC® training and certification also awards a dual certification: The CDC® Certified Divorce Coach and the CDC® Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach designations.
If you’re interested in learning more about becoming a CDC® Certified Divorce Coach, you should attend one of our series of mini-training webinars for those who would like to explore more about how divorce coaching plays out in real life. Our next one is on Wednesday, August 10th, and is “Empowering Clients Through Traumatic Events”.
Schedule an appointment with one of our co-founders now and start making a difference not only in your own life but become a positive influence for other people as well.
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