A CDC® Divorce Coach recognizes that creating a new identity in the divorce process is part of letting go of the past and focusing on the next chapter. They understand that if their client doesn’t take charge of creating their new identity, they’ll be stuck where they are. And even worse, possibly destined to repeat the same choices they’ve made in the past – getting the same results.
In creating the next chapter, the client has an opportunity to let go of the hurts from the past, to remember the dreams that may have been stored away in favor of a new romantic relationship, and later because the demands and joys of marriage/parenthood occupied that space.
Many clients emerge from the divorce now as single head of household and often with the big question: “Who am I now? I don’t even know who I am after all these years as someone’s wife (or husband), someone’s mother (or father), and someone’s co-signer!”
While this question comes up as the person moves into their post-divorce life, it is also lurking underneath the question of, “What do I need as this marriage ends and I move on with the rest of my life?”
The advantage to having a thinking partner, a CDC® Divorce Coach, who is trained and skilled at asking the questions which tease out the answers that are hard to focus on during the often-tumultuous divorce process, is that there is some continuity for the client in the planning process from the very beginning and well into the next chapter. And now equipped with their answers to these questions, the client is much better equipped to help the attorney or mediator understand what their needs are so that they can bring those priorities into the negotiations.
Divorce calls on all participants to go through so much change that perhaps you, as a divorce coach, find yourself cringing at the thought of encouraging your client to create a new identity.
Consider this question: Do you want your client to think of themselves as defined by the fact they are divorced? Or do you want your clients to find new strengths from the experience and have confidence and courage and zest for living, grounded in who they are as their best self! The training you will receive during the CDC® Certified Divorce Coach will give you a solid foundation for helping your clients thrive in their new post-divorce reality.
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