It’s understandable that your client’s thoughts may feel chaotic in the aftermath of divorce blindsiding them. Their mind is likely consumed by concerns, fears, uncertainties, and perhaps even denial about the reality of their situation. Many of these worries revolve around everyday details rather than the significant decisions looming ahead.
Every day, your client faces countless decisions that drain their energy and hinder their problem-solving abilities. The reptilian brain, responsible for survival instincts, takes the helm in such situations. It prompts knee-jerk reactions to ensure your client can navigate through the challenges they encounter. However, it lacks the capacity for thoughtful deliberation and creative problem-solving that the logical brain offers.
The reptilian brain prioritizes speed over careful consideration, cutting off access to the slower, more analytical part of the brain. In survival mode, swift action is key.
A CDC Certified Divorce Coach® is equipped with strategies to manage the reptilian brain and create a calmer, less threatening environment for the client. By establishing trust and familiarity, the coach helps the client calm the reptilian brain and reignite the creative problem-solving faculties. Through four straightforward approaches, the client’s brain can transition from chaos and overwhelm to clarity and focus:
- Establishing a Safe Space: A divorce coach listens to their client’s specific concerns, then walks the client down the path of exploring what other options or choices the client may think of that fall within their control. The client may realize some of the options they consider may or may not work, yet they are now able to comfortably think about other solutions that might work for their unique situation.
- Simplifying Matters: A divorce coach can help the client break the overwhelming divorce process down into manageable smaller sized chunks that the client can focus on, complete, and mark off their list before moving to the next piece.
- Visualizing the Future: By simplifying matters and establishing a comfort zone where the client can look past the problems of the past and present and start focusing on what they want for the future, a divorce coach is a thinking partner that a client can use to explore and begin to work towards that new future they are now envisioning.
- Alleviating Fear: There is always fear when change occurs, and other than the death of a loved one, divorce is perhaps the most stressful event that can occur in a client’s life. A divorce coach can help the client explore ways the client might deal with issues as they arise that trigger that fear and fight or flight response.
As a CDC Certified Divorce Coach®, you serve as the voice of reason, guiding your client to focus on what truly matters and what requires immediate attention. Acting as their thinking partner, you assist them in untangling their concerns and identifying priorities. The tangible relief from this guidance is evident in the client’s demeanor, with straightened shoulders, a lifted head, and an overall sense of reassurance.
The roll-up-your-sleeves kind of work that a divorce coach does helps the client in ways that are different from a therapist, a mediator, and an attorney, and complements their work in helping the client to make the best decisions for their future based on their wants, don’t wants, and their needs. This work has a good chance of empowering them to take the high road and change their experience of divorce – for the sake of themselves and their family!
If you see yourself as someone with experience in divorce, from a personal or professional standpoint, perhaps you would make an ideal divorce coach! In the Divorce Coaching Intensive, we help you to fill in the gaps in how to support those who would be your clients in going through this process; and how to work well with the other professionals who are also supporting clients in different ways with different expertise.
You may have a few questions about how your expertise can translate into becoming a CDC® Certified Divorce Coach. To find out more about becoming a CDC Certified Divorce Coach® visit us at: https://certifieddivorcecoach.com/looking-for-divorce-coach-training/
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