Very often they will tend to get stuck on telling the “story” of their divorce because their entire focus is on what led to this point, how and why it happened, and who is to blame. This not only takes an emotional toll on both the divorce client and whoever is listening, it keeps them from moving forward, and concentrating on the task at hand, which is to navigate through the business of the divorce process.
As a divorce coach, it’s up to you to interrupt the story while still honoring and validating the person telling it.
But how?
One option is to ask a question while including facts of the story that shows you were listening and heard what they were saying. For example, “Can I ask you a question? I’ve heard you talk about the children and custody, and I’ve heard you talk about the house, and I’ve heard your concerns on the financial situation. Which of those is most important to you right now?”
Asking that simple question will get them focused on one thing, rather than all of those things. And it also says, “I’ve heard what you said. I understand that all of these are important to you. Which would you like to focus on first?” By focusing on one thing, the overwhelm is reduced and you can now begin helping the client determine their wants and needs in an organized and professional manner.
At CDC Certified Divorce Coach® we’ve found that our divorce coaches come to us from a variety of fields – family law attorney, healthcare worker, family mediator, divorce financial professional, stay-at-home mom, coach and so many more. They’re either looking for something to add to their already existing offerings or a new start in a field they invariably have some personal experience in.
What do they have in common? They are all passionate about helping people and making a difference in their lives by helping them get through one of the most traumatic events a person can go through.
Becoming a divorce coach is one of the most fulfilling and satisfying career paths you can embark on. If your single most important goal is to support people going through a divorce in not only making their own decisions but making the best possible decisions, they can for themselves, their family, and their future, then becoming a CDC Certified Divorce Coach® might be for you.
Why not take the first step toward having a new set of skills and a new way to generate income in a more satisfying and fulfilling way? Don’t you deserve that? This isn’t for everyone, so why don’t you explore the details of the course and then you can decide – more information here.
Or schedule a one-on-one call with the co-founders of the program and get all of your questions answered quickly.
Whatever you decide, we here at CDC Certified Divorce Coach® wish you the very best in 2021.
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